Boosting Your Kids’ Confidence

by stacie on April 6, 2021

My mother wasn’t much for the big “hurrahs!” and as a result, I’m probably over-the-top when it comes to that kind of stuff. I’ve talked before about how I’ve always overcompensated, especially in light of my divorce, and how overcompensating has likely set repercussions in motion that I never would have imagined.

Anyway, I’ve always tried to give my kids confidence. Sometimes via tough love, sometimes via profuse admiration.

So, how do I do it? It’s definitely not rocket science, I think sometimes parents forget that it’s the really easy stuff their kids actually love. And it’s these really simple things that build their solid foundations.

Teach. When you show your kids how to do things … whether it be modeling good behavior or showing them how to make a simple snack … you build their confidence by giving them life skills and a sense of independence.

Shower them with love. Kiss, kiss, and kiss! Kiss them, kiss their other parent. Show love in the household, in public, and anywhere else you can think of. Kiss them until they giggle … and remember that one day, it will be totally uncool to be kissed by their momma.

Listen to them. Listen to their imaginative stories, what their pretend friends did, what they did in school, what happened on the playground … even when you don’t want to listen or your mind is in a million other places, listen. And when they hit the teenage years, listen even harder because your kids won’t be as direct and the message won’t be as easy to decipher.

Always push them … gently. Encouraging your children seems like a no-brainer. But encouraging and pushing them are two very different things. Pushing them just outside their comfort zone every once in a while builds confidence … and that can be as easy as introducing a new playgroup, trying a new skill like cutting or gluing, or even pushing them to climb that rock wall at the playground.

photo credit: kenny teo

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Missy | Literal Mom April 6, 2021 at 7:36 am

One of my girls is on Spring Break right now and that’s exactly what she wants - your first point. For me to teach her. She asked if we can bake this week, so she can learn how. So sweet.

Lisa @ Two Bears Farm April 6, 2021 at 9:51 am

These are great tips! I do think it’s important to push them a little. They need to learn to face things that can be a little uncomfortable, because in the end it leads to growth.

busy kids=happy mom April 7, 2021 at 7:02 am

I’ve been caught saying “we’re all home-schoolers”. It’s vital that our kids learn through us, their parents. In the past, kids would work right alongside their parents. Now, I have to make sure I ask them to participate with me - it takes more effort! Kids feel most confident when they are loved unconditionally!

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