Breast or Bottle? Whatever You Choose It’s O.K.

Posted on Apr 13, 2021 by 6 Comments

When you become a first time parent you are faced with a ton of choices for how to go about raising your child. It can be overwhelming and seem like everyone has an opinion.

Well, they do.

But you can choose whether or not you pay attention to those opinions because ultimately, you have to decide what is best for you and your child. I am of the mindset that there isn’t one right way to do anything and I don’t think that anyone should tell you how to go about feeding your child as long as you’re not shoving Twinkies down their throat as their primary source of nutrition. Additionally, I’m sure this goes without saying, but if you choose to neglect your child altogether, I’m going to have something to say about that.

But, if you’re feeding your little bundle of joy formula, I’m not going to place judgement on you. If you decided to breastfeed until your child is a toddler, then more power to you.

The sheer amount of judgement and mom guilt we all place on one another is out of hand.

I have several friends who are new moms. Since I have three girls, they come to me a good bit and ask questions, and I always provide them with what I know to have worked in my experience, but I caveat it with, in time you will figure out what works best for you.

So, when it comes to breast vs. bottle, here’s my take - because I have done both. I’ve done only breast. I’ve done only bottle. I’ve pumped for preemies and fed them bottles because they couldn’t latch. It’s run the gamut in my house folks.

So here’s what I think…you know, if you care.

If you can do the first couple of weeks - they get the “liquid gold” at a minimum. It’s the good stuff. And, if you bear through that, chances are, you’ll get through the annoying, difficult part of learning how to breastfeed. What’s that you say? It doesn’t come instinctively?

No. Sorry folks. It’s awkward for you both.


Once you get it, it really can be such a nice experience because you are forced to just “be” in the moment with your child. The dishes have to wait, the laundry has to wait and you have a reason to escape a room full of people because, you know, the baby has to eat and stuff and breaking out the “ladies” discreetly can be tough (pretend you don’t know about those really chic hooter hiders they have out now).

But, if that’s not your thing, you can still get that same experience with the bottle. Seriously. It’s all about perspective and I still felt close to my babies when I bottle fed them in the NICU. And for those of you who talk about brain power and breast milk…I get that. I see the studies, but I also know plenty of brilliant people who went through the 70′s and 80′s when they told everyone to bottle feed formula and not breastfeed.

So, my point? There’s no “right” answer. There’s only your answer. The one that works for you.

What worked for me was doing a combination of everything. I did breastfeed. I also bottle fed formula. I pumped breast milk and bottle fed the breast milk. So, if you’re not into the baby latched to breast but you want to give them your milk, that’s an option, too. If you’re not sure, do your research and educate yourself on both options because there isn’t a singular way to do this thing and it is O.K. for you to do it your way…

Just as long as you feed them something healthy. M’kay? Don’t make me come and hurt you for making them go hungry.


Thoughts on the Breast vs. Bottle debate? 


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Nicole Hempeck

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  • Penny W.

    I agree, and I think most women would too. Especially the part about getting through those first two weeks: if you can do it, you’ve pretty much mastered it! Yes it’s tough, with your boobs painfully full of milk and your nipples getting chafed and your baby crying and hungry every two hours, but from my own experience, it’s worth it and the rest was smooth sailing.

    Good luck to all mommies out there!

  • Rachel @ The Lazy Christian

    I planned on breastfeeding only. My son didn’t cooperate. We saw lactation consultants several times a week, went to a breastfeeding support group, I consulted my doula. He still lost weight, and it scared me to death. I had to supplement with formula anyway, so after two months I just switched to formula all the time. My best friend told me he’d be fat and lazy and sick because I didn’t breastfeed him. I cried so much over the decision, anyway, and her comments didn’t help. But you know what? My son is brilliant, active, a healthy weight, and rarely sick. He’s fine. So when this one gets here, I’m going to try to breastfeed because, hey, it’s free and healthy. But if it doesn’t work out again, I’m not going to fret. She’ll be fine either way.

  • busy kids=happy mom

    I drove myself crazy over breastfeeding! It was hard enough to have a new baby and learn a new “skill” at the same time! When my husband came home one day and told me that he thought I should stop, I cried “but it’s the only thing I’m doing right!” Clearly he thought I was on the crazy train and the stack of books I was reading about it was making me crazier. My advice - do what ‘s best for you and makes you less of a crazy person!

  • Adventures In Babywearing

    Breastfeeding worked great for me, but honestly I’m not sure what I would have done if it was difficult - I was just trying to survive like so many moms and I think you just gotta do what you gotta do!



    I had twins and did a little bit of bottle feeding and a little bit of breastfeeding. (I had to go back to work after 2 months, so complete breadfeeding wouldn’t work, especially with two babies.) I think it’s great if you can even just fit a little of breastfeeding in for your child.

  • Aimee

    You’ve got it! Every baby is different and so is every situation. Only a mom knows what’s best for her and her baby.