Category: Maternity

Bonnie Marcus “Expecting in Style” Announcements

Posted on Apr 5, 2021 by 2 Comments

There’s so many cool ways to announce your pregnancy … but I love this idea.

These “Expecting in Style” announcements show the silhouette of a pregnant woman … and in her belly? A sonogram photo of your new arrival!

How cute is that?

While these are a little pricey in terms of announcements ($20 a pop), these are perfect for soon-to-be grandparents or to give as a shower gift to another expectant mom. Read more…

Dance Yourself Into Labor?

Posted on Apr 3, 2021 by 2 Comments

Dancing into labor is all the rage these days and dancing pregnant women, more specifically, seem to be popping up all over YouTube. I stumbled upon an article over at The Stir where they shared a video of a young mother dancing to Justin Beiber’s song Baby hoping to induce labor.

It was quite the site and super sweet to see her dancing with her nearly two year old daughter as she attempted this feat, and I totally empathized with her need to just get the ball rolling already. Read more…

5 Decisions You Make Before Baby Arrives

Posted on Mar 16, 2021 by 3 Comments

Becoming a parent is a momentous occasion. It’s a step in life where you and your significant other take that next great leap into your future. But, there are so many unknowns and so many things that come to mind when attempting to prepare for such a journey. So what are the “must-make” decisions every parent should decide on before baby arrives? Well, as a mom of three, I have narrowed down the seemingly endless list to a manageable starting point. Read more…

How Do You Treat Your Childcare Provider?

Posted on Feb 10, 2021 by 3 Comments

With two kids, we’ve gone through a lot of daycare. We’ve had nannies, babysitters, and a daycare provider. Each had their own idiosyncrasies and each tested our patience in one way or another.

But they all had one thing in common: we treated them extremely well.

Now, I don’t say this because I’m trying to be all braggy-braggy or toot my own horn. But it’s true. We have a tendency to indulge our care providers a little bit…because, after all, our children spent a lot of time with them. In many ways, our care providers had as much to do with shaping their little minds as we did. We certainly didn’t want to tick them off!

I’ve talked before about the trials and tribulations of choosing childcare. It can be a tricky and stressful situation (most often more stressful for you than for your little one). But finding care is just half the battle; once you charge this person with the care and keeping of your child, you need to be sure to treat them right, too. Read more…

The Mommy Files: Can We Ever Accept Our Post-Baby Bodies?

Posted on Feb 7, 2021 by 4 Comments

It’s a funny thing. Yesterday I was “pottying a tinkle” (as my toddler calls it) when I felt a bit of skin on my belly sort of tuck under…that’s the only way to describe it. I thought, this couldn’t possibly be happening…not to me. It was fine when I was standing up. There was no sag or drag…a little pooch perhaps, but no sagging.

Cautiously, I put my hand to my abdomen. Yes, yes, there it was. A belly roll. Disgusted, I hopped off the loo and vowed that I would start a diet tomorrow. I would not let this get the best of me. I would be out running a half-marathon next summer…and the list when on and on.

Then I went to the kitchen, leaned against the counter, and savored a chocolate Super Bowl cupcake while I contemplated how I would do this. An app that records my every calorie? A blog about what I was doing? How would I keep myself honest? I made my decision and moved on, though I didn’t mention it out loud, because we all know how I feel about our own body images ruining our little girls. Read more…

Isabella Oliver Maternity

Posted on Jan 27, 2021 by 2 Comments

Thank you Isabella Oliver for making maternity clothes look like real clothes! Now I wish I were pregnant just so I could wear these. You know the maternity line is good if even a non-preggers woman wants the look.

Here are my top many choices: Read more…

Choosing Childcare: What is Best for Your Family?

Posted on Nov 21, 2020 by 5 Comments

Childcare is one of those things we agonize over. To send or not to send? In-home daycare or center? Nanny or babysitter? Part-time or full-time?

It can really drive a parent crazy!

But when choosing childcare, one thing is the most important: your gut feeling. I’ve been looking for daycare for one child or another since 1999. And in almost 13 years, it’s never gotten easier — or cheaper.

However, there’s a few questions you can ask yourself before you start looking for childcare. Read more…

Citrus Lane: A Unique Twist on the Baby Gift

Posted on Nov 18, 2020 by 5 Comments

We’ve all been there. A baby shower to go to and no idea what to buy.

Like, do you really want to buy baby toys? Or more baby clothes? And yes, you can shop off the registry, but I’ve talked to more and more moms that aren’t registering at all because no one ever buys them what they ask for anyway.

So, what’s a shower-goer to do?

Try Citrus Lane.

Frankly, this idea is genius. The only fault I can find is that I didn’t think of it first.

Citrus Lane is a business which gathers the most popular and most highly recommended baby products and pulls them together all in one place. Then, they package them up and send them to new and expectant parents. As the gift-giver, these packages are part of a subscription service. Each and every month (for the term you specify), the new parents will receive a Read more…

Why New Moms Need a Reality Check

Posted on Oct 26, 2020 by 39 Comments

When I was pregnant with our second daughter, my husband and I attended a birthing class.

With my first daughter, I suffered from severe depression both during and after my pregnancy. It was an extremely difficult time in my life and a decade ago, postpartum depression was not given the weight it is now. Additionally, there’s just a stigma that surrounds mental health issues of any kind, which (ironically) makes me really sad.

So you can imagine how well I did when the birthing instructor started telling women how beautiful labor and delivery was and how you would want to spend every waking second with your precious bundle of joy, from the minute he left the womb until he matriculated from high school.

When she first said this, I spoke up. I brought up how, it’s actually really difficult to want to spend time with your new baby when he’s been screaming all night because he’s colicky and you’re sleep deprived with an influx of hormones. And I told her I thought it was wrong that such an expectation was set up for new mothers. Read more…

A Baby and Her Nap - Trust Your Instincts

Posted on Sep 20, 2020 by 5 Comments

A good friend of mine just sent out a Facebook status update in utter panic after her 2.5 year old boy hadn’t napped for the previous 2 days. She was desperate for him to hang on to it and reached out to us moms for help and support. Love that about Facebook!

Well, we all chimed in with nap advice from “grin and bear it” and “let him stay awake” to “baby massage” and “woo woo hocus pocus” to help him keep sleeping. I think she got him to hold on to his nap, albeit a shorter one, but all that different advice got me to thinking about how individual napping is for each kid.

Turns out, I’m not wrong! The New York Times recently posted an article on how napping behavior is not only a complex mix of biology, as one would figure, but also depends on cultural expectations and family dynamics.

So a mom really can ‘expect’ her child back to sleep…good to know!

Actually, not really.

Apparently, since sleep was first studied over 100 years ago, people were measuring their child’s sleep habits, worrying that the little tyke wasn’t getting enough. Isn’t that funny even 100 years ago when there weren’t TVs, computers or all these after school activities, parents were wondering if little Jimmy was sleeping enough?

It’s a fascinating article that, unfortunately, doesn’t answer that basic question: is my child getting enough sleep? It’s too complex and individual to have one set answer. It all depends.

Damn.

But the experts that The Times interviews do offer some interesting benchmarks against which to compare behavior of a sleepy child or a well rested one. Like does she run on a short fuse? That’s a sleepy child. Well, I say no sh@# Sherlock, of course a sleepy child is gonna scream and cry at the drop of a hat. Of course, well rested ones often do too, so who knows?

Seriously though, the kernel of the story: trust your instincts, eyes and ears.

So, I guess we moms are left to scour our circle of mothers for our own answer, dissecting the wee one’s behavior - her tantrums, her ability to cope with the world - to answer the question for ourselves.

photo: tempophage

Baby Boot Camp: Kicking Your Butt Into Gear One Stroller Ride at a Time

Posted on Sep 9, 2020 by 4 Comments

I won’t lie; I’m still struggling with that last ten pounds.

In fact, I’m struggling with the second five pounds — I keep gaining and losing those same five pounds over and over.

And while I’ve started a pretty strict running regimen and totally enjoy the solitude of it, I still want to do something different. Yoga is great, but not quite what I’m looking for. I need something that will provide a little jolt to my system and get things energized again.

I need Baby Boot Camp (also widely known as Stroller Boot Camp).

It’s important to note that I did not come to this foregone conclusion all on my own — in some ways, I have Facebook to thank for it. While I was browsing the photos of an old high school friend and her new baby, I came across one where she was in a bikini with her husband and two kids. With an infant of roughly three months on her hip, she was rocking that string bikini like she was Kourtney Kardashian with a team of trainers. Read more…

A Great Diaper Bag Doesn’t Look Like One

Posted on Sep 7, 2020 by 5 Comments

Handbags and I have always had a love affair. Whenever I travel, I always buy a new bag. Typically it tends to be something reflective of where I’m at.

A visit to a coastal town? A kitchy, handmade bag that can also be used at the farmers market. A trip to the city? Something big and bold.

But once I had a baby, I had to find a way to marry my love of beautiful bags with the practicality of a diaper bag. I will say, this was much easier to do this time around than a decade ago when we had our first child. At any rate, I did find that some of the same diaper bag cliches still existed - some had cartoon characters on them, some were totally utilitarian, and some just looked like diaper bags.

Needless to say, none of these fit my personality. Read more…

Mine for Nine: Rent Fashionable Maternity Clothes

Posted on Aug 15, 2021 by 2 Comments

If you’ve been pregnant, you know finding a maternity wardrobe that is both stylish andaffordable can be tricky. And not tricky like it’s not possible, because it is. There are plenty of stores you can shop that have affordable maternity clothes.

The problem is, the clothes often don’t fit more than a few months at best. Then you’ve outgrown them. And for months the cycle goes on. To make matters worse, you’re a hormonal basket case who already feels like nothing fits and by the end of your pregnancy (if you’re anything like me) you’re almost always in tears over how bad everything looks on you.

Do I hear a round of applause ladies? Read more…