New Years Resolutions To Live By

by Kate on December 31, 2020

Each December, as the year ends, I find myself wanting to make the most significant of resolutions, to make not so much big changes as deep ones, hoping that this new year will be the year I do it! I actually stick to a resolution, whatever it is that I resolve to do (or not do).

You know, I bet I’m in good company when I say that I hardly even remember my resolution half way into February, unless of course the resolution is so monumental that there is no hope of either attaining it or forgetting it.

I remember one year, a long time ago when I was young, in love with the wrong person and experiencing a world of hurt, I resolved to not feel so much in the coming year. You can imagine where that got me.

Recently I changed my family’s new year tradition to choosing a word by which to live the rest of the year instead of a resolution. Just one word. A word that is at once broad, but specific to an idea or person.

One year, my stepfather who had experienced a few too many maladies chose the word “healthy.” It was monumental in that health was not only on his mind, but ours as well for him. And, by speaking it out loud he was saying “I can be in charge of my health, even if it is simply being healthy in mind and spirit if not body.” And guess what, it kinda worked. His intention laid the pavement for a better year for him. And his health returned amazingly.

Or the year I vowed to have more sex. It was after my divorce and well, it was me saying that I didn’t want another relationship. I didn’t want intimacy and the inevitable vulnerability. Not so hard a word to make come to life, true, but still, it was the intention that set me off on one of the best years of self-exploration that I have experienced. And not just in the bedroom!

So, as the year comes to a close and the dawn of the new one has yet to shine, what will be your word?

I’ve been thinking about mine for a couple of days and it keeps changing. As the words I’ve chosen in the past bubble up, I realize that my word choice has become super important to me. It speaks to where I want to go, yes, but also where I am now. Because, if I find myself needing something then clearly I don’t have it now.

I’m thinking about roots, family, home and authenticity. I’m still not certain. Better get on it by tonight!

photo credit: *Sally M*

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Ruby T. December 31, 2020 at 10:36 am

I like that approach - one word or attitude rather than a difficult resolution. Why not choose a word like “happy”? Or perhaps something more specific, such as “self-empowerment.” Happy New Year!

Pinchus Rose January 1, 2021 at 11:03 pm

Great idea. A word is more than a resolution, because it is a guide toward what is right, instead of a small step. Though sometimes the small steps help you actually change in a tiny way, and the word just makes you sort of feel good. I don’t know which is better, but I would try the word way. I don’t see how it would interfere with a resolution as well.
How about harmony, with offshoots of emotions working in harmony with body, person to person, not destroying the world, etc, etc.

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