Should You Help Your Kids with Homework?
I was shocked when my daughter came home and presented me with a science report that had a note from her teacher which read, “Isn’t your mom an editor? Have her look through this and resubmit.”
She then proceeded to tell me that all of her teachers feel like she should have perfectly polished papers, given that I edit textbooks for a living.
Of course I want to help her. And of course I cringe every time I see a comma splice, but is it my place to step in and correct them? And if so, how often should I do it?
This leaves me torn. If I look over her paper, how thorough of an edit do I give it? I don’t want to mark everything because I feel that it would give her an unfair advantage over other students. But at the same time, if her teachers expect that I am correcting her papers at home, I don’t want her unfairly graded either.
At parent-teacher conferences I brought this up, and while the teachers understood my predicament, they all advised me to edit, edit, edit. After all, “It will help her stay on all-honors.”
But I’m left wondering what she’s going to learn if I fix everything. Or, even if I just point out every mistake and she has the opportunity to fix it before turning it in. That’s not how college works … or even the workplace.
I also needed to assess whether my ego was getting in the way; what kind of editor would I be seen as if my kid was turning in shoddy papers?
So now I turn to you. How much help do you give to your kids when it comes to school projects? Am I over-analyzing things? Does your need for your child to have the perfect project make it hard to keep it in perspective?
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